Builder interface for arrow_ipc::FileWriter

[devinjdangelo]

Is your feature request related to a problem or challenge? Please describe what you are trying to do.

While looking into apache/datafusion#8635, I noticed that arrow_ipc::FileWriter does not appear to have a builder interface for configuring write related options. It would be convenient to have a similar interface to parquet WriterProperties::builder() or csv WriterBuilder that enables mutating specific options.

Describe the solution you'd like
arrow_ipc::FileWriterBuilder that enables configuring options with a similar interface for other writers in arrow-rs

Describe alternatives you've considered
The existing interface does enable setting options via IpcWriteOptions::try_new and IpcWriteOptions::try_with_compression, so this is more for convenience / consistency than adding new functionality.

Additional context

[tustvold]

#5136 is possibly related